You are about to go to the stage to make a report, or you are waiting in line for the interview, or sitting in the examination room waiting for the paper to be handed out. Obviously, I just went to the toilet ten minutes ago, and suddenly I felt the urge to urinate again, and I couldn’t help it. You even suspected that you drank too much water, but if you think about it carefully, you just drank a cup of coffee this morning. Don’t panic. It’s not that your bladder is broken. It’s your anxiety that is sending you a fake alarm.
When you are in a hurry to urinate, ask yourself three questions first.
You feel that you can’t hold it anymore. Your brain is shouting to run. The toilet is over there. Anxiety will amplify the body signals and let you interpret the normal slight feeling as an emergency alarm.
For example, you are in the cinema now, and the movie has just started for twenty minutes, and you suddenly feel anxious. Don’t stand up and ask yourself three questions: How many glasses of water did you drink today? Did you urinate a lot last time? Will I wet my pants if I don’t go in five minutes? The answers are all negative. Then tell yourself, fake, watch the movie at ease.
You can write these three questions in the mobile phone memo and read them directly next time you want to urinate. After three questions, the fake alarm will be turned off.
Before going to bed, I always feel that I haven’t urinated cleanly. I have a five-minute scam.
You lay in bed and turned over. Suddenly, you felt a little bloated underneath, and your brain immediately popped up the idea. What if you were woken up by urine? It’s better to empty it now. You got up and went to the toilet, but you only urinated a few drops.
Small theater in the brain
I have climbed up twice, each time it’s a few drops. I lay back on the bed and just covered the quilt, and that feeling came again. You are starting to get angry with yourself. Is my bladder too small? At this time, you try to say to yourself that I can hold it for five minutes, just five minutes. If you still want to pee after five minutes, I will go again. Then you start to count your breath, take a breath and count 1, exhale and count 2, all the way to 60. You may find that feeling has faded when you count to 30, or after counting 60, that feeling is still there, but you are no longer so anxious.
You will find that most of the time, the urge to urinate disappears by itself within five minutes, because you no longer stare at it. After repeating this scam for a week, your bladder will learn to be patient again, and you don’t have to go to the toilet repeatedly before going to bed.
Go to the toilet repeatedly before going out and say a spell to yourself.
You made an appointment with a friend, went to the toilet before going out, changed your shoes and felt it. Once again, you walked to the elevator entrance and wanted to go back. The brain tied going out and emptying together.
Small theater in the brain
Standing at the door, I have been to the toilet twice. I put my hand on the doorknob and was fighting in my heart. Take a deep breath and say a short spell to yourself. It’s not really full, it’s just too nervous. Then you don’t look back and just open the door and go out. When I went downstairs, I met my neighbor and said hello. I entered the subway station and got on the bus. Suddenly, I realized that the urge to urinate disappeared at some point.
The key step is to open the door and go out. Don’t give your brain a second chance to hesitate. The spell interrupts the conditioned reflex. When you really go out, the environment switches to let the brain change the channel, and the urge to urinate is naturally covered.
When you sit down to do your homework, you always want to go to the toilet. Tell it that you are swollen and I will accompany you.
You are working hard to write a thesis. After sitting down for ten minutes, you feel like peeing. When you come back, you sit for ten minutes and want to go again. You can’t concentrate at all. It’s not that the bladder has become smaller, but that your attention is locked.
Small theater in the brain
Sitting in the library, I have run back and forth three times. Looking at the only two lines of documents written on the screen, I felt very broken. You say to yourself, okay, just swell, and I’ll sit with you for five minutes. Then you didn’t stand up, didn’t go to the toilet, and continued to type with your head down. Even if you had been thinking about that feeling in your heart, you pretended not to hear it. You tell yourself that if you don’t go in five minutes, the sky will not collapse. The first two minutes were hard, but in the third minute, your fingers moved on the keyboard, and you were thinking about how to wrathe next sentence.
It doesn’t matter whether the feeling is still there after five minutes, because your attention has been taken away by your homework. Next time you come, say it again. You can swell. I’ll accompany you. It’s rare to wait for the third five minutes.
Frequent urination before the interview is the worst. Treat the toilet as your safe home.
You sat outside the conference room and waited for the call, meditating in your heart that you must not want to urinate. As a result, the more you think about it, the more anxious you are to urinate. You have run to the toilet twice. You start to worry about what to do if you want to pee halfway through the interview.
Small theater in the brain
Waiting for the interview, there is another person in front. You stood up and wanted to go to the toilet again, but this time you did it in a different way. When you walk into the toilet, you are not in a hurry to take off your pants, but wash your face first and rinse your wrist with cold water. Then you stand in front of the mirror, take a deep breath, exhale slowly, and say to yourself, I can come here to relax at any time. The toilet is my safe house. You stay for about a minute, then come out and go back to the waiting area. After sitting down, you find that the urge to urinate has not disappeared, but it is no longer urgent. It becomes a background sound, and you can even ignore it.
When you define the toilet as a safe house instead of an escape station, the fear of urination is reduced. When you really go into the interview and open your mouth, your brain will be occupied, and the urge to urinate has long been squeezed into the corner.
In the last sentence, anxiety makes you want to urinate. It’s not that your body is broken, but that you are too sensitive. Next time someone says it’s a fantasy in your mind, you smile, go to the toilet to wash your face, and come back to continue your normal life.
