Here’s the reality of a healthy and secure relationship—not the clickbait you see on social media.
1. Your Partner Is Going to Trigger You
Whoever told you that healthy and secure relationships never make you feel anxious, and if you have any kind of triggers they’re not the one for you, is wrong. A trigger is a neutral action or inaction. Your partner could do something as simple as close the door a little loudly, and that could trigger you.
We’re not looking for a partner that never triggers you or activates you. We’re looking for a partner where you can work through that together and actually have a real conversation—where you can express what you’re going through so that they can receive it and understand it.
2. Relationships Are One Giant Conversation
If you don’t like to communicate, and you don’t want to talk about your feelings, and you don’t want to tell them what’s going on, then you’re going to be really lonely in your relationship. Or you’re going to have a lot of resentment that will grow. Healthy and secure relationships thrive on open and honest communication—and not just communication, but also comprehension.
3. You Actually Still Have to Date Your Partner
You can’t just get lazy and stop making an effort. If you never go out, never connect, never have intimacy, that’s where your relationship is going to die. Plan date nights. Do unique things together. That way you can keep the spark alive and not let it die because you’re so busy with life that you forget about the life you’re building together.
