This is how you avoid getting played in early dating situations.
And honestly, coming from someone who says she’s never been played, this mindset isn’t about being “smart” — it just saves you a lot of unnecessary pain.
First, don’t romanticize someone too quickly.
When you’re only a few months in, that version of him you’re seeing might not be the full picture. He’s still showing you what he wants you to see.
You don’t really know someone well enough to fully trust or fall in love within the first three months.
Another thing — don’t put yourself in a position where you can easily get hurt.
If you’re under 22, be honest with yourself: most guys at that age aren’t looking for something serious. There’s a reason people say early relationships often don’t last.
He might seem like a “good guy,” but that doesn’t automatically mean he’s ready for commitment.
Also, don’t tolerate disrespect.
The moment he realizes he can treat you poorly and you’ll still stay, that’s the moment things start going downhill.
There’s nothing wrong with supporting someone through a rough patch — but that’s different from staying with someone who consistently treats you badly.
And finally, don’t lose yourself.
If you’re younger, keep your options open. Don’t sacrifice too much for someone who isn’t doing the same for you.
Because chances are, you’re not the only person he’s talking to — even if it feels like you are.
And if he’s constantly out with friends, doing his own thing, and you’re assuming complete loyalty without any real foundation yet… you might be giving too much too soon.
