If you want to mind fuck someone into being obsessed with you, this is what you do. Now, this is toxic. But I’m not necessarily telling you so you can do this to someone. I’m telling you so that if someone does it to you, you know what’s going on.
The way that you mind fuck someone into being obsessed with you is to give them an open loop. The human brain hates nothing more than open loops. It’s the thing that causes the most intense obsession.
This is actually rooted in psychology. It’s called the Zeigarnik effect—our brains are wired to remember incomplete tasks and unresolved experiences far more than finished ones. An open loop can be anything as small as an unfinished conversation, all the way to an unfinished relationship. The brain keeps spinning, replaying, trying to solve it, because it craves closure.
And the way that you make someone absolutely obsessed with an open loop is to exit it at its peak.
This looks like: if you’re dating someone, exit the relationship at the climax of their feelings for you—not when things are going bad. Or abruptly detach from someone when they’re the most attached to you. It’s never giving someone closure or clarity, and making them search for answers on their own. You leave them with all the intensity and none of the resolution.
Open loops for the human brain are psychological torture. The stronger someone’s feelings are for the thing, the more it hurts. Giving someone an open loop is one of the worst things that you can do to them, because you are not only the problem, but the only cure. That’s what makes it so devastating—you become the source of their pain and their only hope for relief.
