It can be so overwhelming when you experience that feeling of, “This is it. This is my person.” When someone is pouring so much into you, it’s beautiful—but it’s also scary.
When Good Things Feel Scary
All of the things you used to complain about in the past, all of the things you psyched yourself out of thinking you wanted, all of your behaviors that you naturally inhibited—suddenly, when it’s right in front of you, it’s overwhelming. Because you realize: “Wow, it was possible all this time. Why did I ever settle for less?”
It’s a beautiful feeling, but it is overwhelming.
Why We Self-Sabotage When Things Get Good
It is so easy to self-sabotage a good thing when you are not used to it. You might have limiting beliefs of feeling like, “I don’t deserve this.” “This can’t be true.” “It’s too good to be true.” You’re waiting for the shoe to drop. You’re wondering, “How could this come so fast? Why now?” You question it.
How to Stop Sabotaging and Let It Be Good
It’s so important to let time pass. Let them continue to show up for you. Sometimes people can be love bombing, so continue to check the boxes and just breathe. Don’t make any rash decisions. Keep moving like you know you should, and start believing that you deserve it.
Over time, it’s going to work itself out—and it will just feel normal. You won’t feel overwhelmed anymore. The key is to let yourself receive what you’ve always wanted without running away from it. You don’t have to earn love by overthinking it. You just have to let it be.
