Do you know why you feel so burnt out and tired? It might not be because of how much you’re doing—it might be because of how much you’re absorbing.
Your Energy Is Being Drained by Other People
Right now, you have no idea how much time and energy is being wasted or drained because of other people’s behavior, or your expectations about how you wish things would go. Once you start noticing all these little moments all day long, it’s like a death by a thousand cuts. You spend your mental energy worrying about what someone meant, replaying conversations, managing other people’s moods, and trying to control outcomes that were never yours to control.
Why You’re So Tired
You want to know why you’re too tired? Why you’re overwhelmed? Why you’re stressed out? Why you have no time for yourself? It’s because of the power you give to other people’s opinions, their emotions, their immature behavior. Every time you take on someone else’s problem as your own, you’re adding weight to your already full load. Every time you spiral over a text or a tone, you’re draining your own battery.
The Sad Fact
Other people should be the greatest source of happiness, connection, and inspiration—not the greatest source of exhaustion. But if you don’t truly learn the skill of focusing on what you can control and letting people be who they are, you’ll keep giving your energy away. And you’ll be shocked by how much time you’ve wasted.
How to Stop Giving Your Energy Away
Start by asking yourself: Is this mine to carry? Is this my problem to solve? Is this person’s opinion actually relevant to my life? Most of the time, the answer is no. The people who drain you are usually not trying to hurt you—they’re just being themselves. But you get to decide how much access they have to your energy. That’s where your power lies. When you bring the power back to yourself, you’ll be shocked by how much lighter you feel.
